tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post3616985826716677382..comments2023-10-31T07:19:15.895-04:00Comments on Remember All the Way: Infertility never goes awayAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-18949973774494983422011-08-02T15:30:13.205-04:002011-08-02T15:30:13.205-04:00This was an awesome post. Thank you!
http://funny...This was an awesome post. Thank you!<br />http://funnylittlepollywogs.comMs. Pollywoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333603296034804747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-22002232677632805242011-08-01T15:53:32.516-04:002011-08-01T15:53:32.516-04:00Beautifully said. For the record, if I get any ad...Beautifully said. For the record, if I get any advantages from still being a childless infertile, I may have some cred here - and I don't think that you've ever been insensitive. I think you've been honest and open about the meaning of your pregnancy after infertility (to you), and it seems to me you've handled in a way that's totally authentic to who you are. Though I have much work to do on being generous toward those who have "crossed over," I do understand that for many, the pain they suffered is something they remember as very ugly, and would like to forget as quickly and thoroughly as possible; and so they lose themselves in the frivolity of diapers and nurseries, and do not acknowledge the deeper changes that accompany those lighter things. If I may be so bold, I would say that it seems to me that those who have been really "authentic" in becoming parents, acknowledging the bad with the good, bearing the burdens of those who are still waiting, not trying to forget or deny the experiences of their erstwhile comrades or deny their own past experiences, and embracing healing not as an instant change with pregnancy but as a long and serious process, which may not finish in this lifetime - well, I think those are people who accepted infertility with a spiritual dimension while they were still childless. It seems to me that those who owned the fact that they were suffering, who accepted that God's will might not be what they had originally expected, and who didn't turn away from their faith with that knowledge, but sought to understand a God who might will such a thing for them, have made the transition smoothly, rather than with a jarring change of personality. I'm not claiming I'm among those who were so wise, but I guess I have the mixed blessing of being aware of what I've not accomplished. And it seems to me that you've done an admirable job - a real IF success story, before pregnancy and after. I hope to be one one day myself :).the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-82112297844519514212011-08-01T12:08:06.952-04:002011-08-01T12:08:06.952-04:00I think you bring up a great topic. So aften, I o...I think you bring up a great topic. So aften, I only hear "praise God" or "God is a God of Miracles" after a miracle pg has occurred. but what about the miracles for those of us who will never see a pg? Isn't it a miracle that I can simply go on with life? isn't it success that our marriage has survived this? Isn't it a miracle that we can rediscover joy and peace (over and over again) in the midst of our pain? It doesn't occur to people to acknowledge God for those small miracles. I've already been cheated out of having a family, but don't cheat me out of the ability to be the recipient of these small miracles and successes even if it doesn't include a baby. I think it's so important to remember, like you mentioned, that success can have different definitions than just pregnancy. I know I need to remind myself of this all the time.NLYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13107609438698487022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-86311130931597633962011-08-01T07:53:05.502-04:002011-08-01T07:53:05.502-04:00Such a heartfelt post; I think I say with on behal...Such a heartfelt post; I think I say with on behalf of all IFers that you do not nor did not take this pregnancy forgranted. You welcomed every symptom, every step with open arms. I really like that about you :)<br /><br />Hooray to 30 weeks!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11995549233425170204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-28172098420825192702011-08-01T06:41:39.776-04:002011-08-01T06:41:39.776-04:00what a beautiful post. thank you for sharing!what a beautiful post. thank you for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-44420038354388763562011-07-31T23:42:02.585-04:002011-07-31T23:42:02.585-04:00Beautiful post, thank you! I think it is so speci...Beautiful post, thank you! I think it is so special that you remember what it was like. I hope that if I ever do get to be a mom, I will remember what it was like to be the one left behind. So many seem to forget.Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03073181050222573360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-58201195287726098402011-07-31T20:57:30.393-04:002011-07-31T20:57:30.393-04:00Well said. It doesn't go away and I think abo...Well said. It doesn't go away and I think about it every time I look down at my belly or feel a kick. It does feel like living in a dream... only now I'm selfish because I've fallen in love with this baby already and I want the dream come true! Just want to beat IF and be there to tell others it can happen! So can relate...Miss Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255597705451649412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-54636292624777891282011-07-31T20:53:46.462-04:002011-07-31T20:53:46.462-04:00This is such a lovely post. I constantly wonder wh...This is such a lovely post. I constantly wonder what today would be like if I weren't pregnant now, and the thought haunts me. It never, ever really goes away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-78124715929927289912011-07-31T16:58:02.005-04:002011-07-31T16:58:02.005-04:00I posted about a similar topic the other day, but ...I posted about a similar topic the other day, but for me adoption has erased almost all of the pain of infertility. Probably not permanently, but a girl can dream, right? I find myself eager to let go of it all and live in the "now", where as before we became parents, I refused to let go of anything. Parenthood was my only focus and I was pretty damn sure I wasn't going to be happy or whole without it. Not necessarily the healthiest of attitudes, but I'm only human after all. <br />Maybe because of that attitude, most of my friendships didn't really survive infertility...although I would say infertility is the reason I couldn't make new friends more than it ruined my older friendships. It's hard to make friends when everyone your age has two or more kids already :(.<br />I'm so happy for you and love to see how much can happen in one year!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com