tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post4721028924053644480..comments2023-10-31T07:19:15.895-04:00Comments on Remember All the Way: After the factAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-65085494368688568742009-05-04T13:13:00.000-04:002009-05-04T13:13:00.000-04:00I'm great at coming up with comebacks/answers/argu...I'm great at coming up with comebacks/answers/arguments after the fact, but nothing when actually faced with the situation. At my ISG meeting though we talked about answering this sort of question and I've decided to just be honest. Sarcastic me would answer something like "Now there's a thought!" but normal me just answers "Nope." and if asked why "Because we are struggling with infertility." I try not to make it an issue.The Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290743206308460919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-20651307753225568812009-05-02T02:02:00.000-04:002009-05-02T02:02:00.000-04:00Eek. That's tough. I know what you mean, though, i...Eek. That's tough. I know what you mean, though, it really does matter who's asking. I take the questions much better from certain types of people. It is really hard when the questions keep coming until they get a satisfactory answer! I always feel backed into a corner and my mind usually goes blank at that point. <br /><br />When I'm prepared, I usually go with "We'd love to have children someday." This lets them know that we DO want to have children, and it implies that there is maybe a problem without getting into the whole story. Usually works, except with those who are particularly nosy. (Grrr)Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-89500143233930672862009-05-01T17:00:00.000-04:002009-05-01T17:00:00.000-04:00I like your comeback that you didn't get to use :)...I like your comeback that you didn't get to use :). I say "Not yet" also, and if they obviously have other questions beyond merely the existence of children, I generally say "we'd be happy to have some any time" (this clears matters up for people in older generations who ask. That's all they really want to know, that I don't hate babies). <br /><br />In my first two years or so I would occasionally get follow-up questions - to which I think no one is entitled. My closest girlfriends, I told, and no one can decide to BECOME your close friend by forcing you to share your personal business with them. So if I knew them at all, I generally responded, "I'm infertile." This tends to upset people, but if they're going to be nosy and callous, I would rather they are upset than I am. <br /><br />I haven't yet had an opportunity to add "like 15% of the adult population" (since I learned that) but I now plan to - I'd like my closer to be, "I've been infertile for several years and I don't cry that much any more. But many women do, so next time you're about to pry - think first." That needs to be said AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, IMO.the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-44974356060093334502009-05-01T11:39:00.000-04:002009-05-01T11:39:00.000-04:00My usual response is, "Nope, not yet." I haven't t...My usual response is, "Nope, not yet." I haven't thought of anything better yet. I lead a happily uneventful life, barring one event I'd like to have happen.Praying for Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14876247645386693790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-3418777656381441282009-05-01T09:51:00.000-04:002009-05-01T09:51:00.000-04:00I am known for thinking of good responses loooong ...I am known for thinking of good responses loooong after the fact. And it took me over a year to come up with my new adoption response, haha!!! I'll start thinking about a response for you...I may come up with something next year ;) Have a great Friday!!!Grace in my Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09742364804125879803noreply@blogger.com