tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post6180410750528582617..comments2023-10-31T07:19:15.895-04:00Comments on Remember All the Way: Delivery or Pickup?Ahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-261067042152915492009-09-07T22:27:52.737-04:002009-09-07T22:27:52.737-04:00First, that's the way brothers are. My DH wou...First, that's the way brothers are. My DH would never talk to his brother about stuff like that. They're so happy to see each other once a year, and then I swear, they just sit and stare at each other, or watch tv. WTH?<br /><br />Second, YES!!! I had a very dear friend, J, who was just like this, maybe worse. A great guy and funny once you got to know him. He would talk to me about it, but would kind of shoot down everything I suggested. He would, however, go places if DH & I where there, but nothing ever came of it. He ended up doing the computer dating and after several failed dates (I mean M.I.S.E.R.A.B.L.E dates), he did meet the girl he eventually married. I don't think it's a bad thing at all and really the avenue for people who are in careers, out of school, not into Church or bars, etc....https://www.blogger.com/profile/09490440266637782466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-75808369814443383562009-09-06T03:39:51.547-04:002009-09-06T03:39:51.547-04:00That's "too" and "proceeding.&q...That's "too" and "proceeding." Stupid mini keyboard.the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-20842626347868969792009-09-06T03:38:22.713-04:002009-09-06T03:38:22.713-04:00I can honestly say I've never encountered a ca...I can honestly say I've never encountered a case like this one (most of my problem people are either way to shy or have massive hangups that cause them to drive away anyone who shows an actual interest). Maybe a completely rational approach would work with him? I.e., yes, his many fine qualities make him suitable for a spouse, but the current evolution of human mating and courtship rituals, for biological reasons among others, requires men and women to determine the suitability of prospective partners by gaining information through successive interactions, beginning with the very superficial and proceding gradually to the very intimate. Statistically speaking, one must maximize the number and effectiveness of the first superficial interactions with different prospective mates in order to achieve an optimal likelihood of eventually attaining the most intimate level of interaction (I'm thinking marriage here, not sex, but whatever). If he likes soccer and decides to play baseball, learning the rules is not changing his personality. It's playing the game he's in. Dating is no different. If you refuse to learn, you can congratulate yourself that you're a soccer purist, but you don't get to play baseball.the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-33728059273512738242009-09-05T20:14:35.803-04:002009-09-05T20:14:35.803-04:00That is a tricky situation. I honestly think e-har...That is a tricky situation. I honestly think e-harmony could be a helpful tool. My FIL thinks it's a fabulous invention and if he were single and our age he would use it :) I've had a number of friends who have had positive experiences with it... (sorry that sounds like such a sales pitch!). I guess it just doesn't seem like anything you and your DH can help with, as much as you might want to :(Hillaryhttp://makingmemom.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-85514243567553482352009-09-04T18:24:27.831-04:002009-09-04T18:24:27.831-04:00Gosh...I can't say I have any suggestions for ...Gosh...I can't say I have any suggestions for your BIL. Does he belong to any particular church? SOmetimes different churches (even Catholic) offer get togethers for young adults. I joined one and that is how I met my dh...well actually I met him at a young adult retreat...that I found out about through the young adult group. Some of the guys in that group were very quiet but they did go out with everyone and seemed to enjoy themselves too. Just a thought.prayerfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15549430693172260600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-88538987265071857552009-09-04T12:59:19.650-04:002009-09-04T12:59:19.650-04:00It sounds like a dating service might be the right...It sounds like a dating service might be the right step for him. Or blind dates? If anyone knows someone who would be willing...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com