tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post8642784718967642215..comments2023-10-31T07:19:15.895-04:00Comments on Remember All the Way: Networking (edited)Ahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-82289056423789694772010-03-23T22:08:17.667-04:002010-03-23T22:08:17.667-04:00How wonderful it is that God is opening up such op...How wonderful it is that God is opening up such opportunities for you to make friends. Your new friend sounds like she will be a real blessing to you. I had to laugh when you described yourself at the retreat with everyone expect two being over 75. <br /><br />I am not very good at making friends outside of work, mostly because I don't do anything besides work. (Kinda hard to make friends that way). My friends have always been 20 years older than me. <br /><br />I am open about my miscarriage. If I had the opportunity to make friends, then I would probably mention my miscarriage. I think it would turn a lot of people off, but I would be able to see who would make my kind of friend. <br /><br />I am proud of you for opening up. Good for you! And good for you for getting out their and trying to meet people and joining a hiking group.<br /><br />And, you had better enjoy your regular coffee for now, because hopefully you will be resigned to decaf for a long time :)Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217779025743115019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-35247073442843928212010-03-18T13:06:36.348-04:002010-03-18T13:06:36.348-04:00That is so great you're meeting people and mak...That is so great you're meeting people and making new friends!! Good for you!! We recently moved to the suburbs, and I was so excited to meet new people, our neighbors, etc...but it ends up being hard without the baby connection, its frustrating to say the least. So I'm super proud of you for putting yourself out there!Basic Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03949810121076136586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-20884820594285618282010-03-17T14:49:58.691-04:002010-03-17T14:49:58.691-04:00I'm glad you are starting to meet new people a...I'm glad you are starting to meet new people and will hopefully make some friends! It's hard to get out there and meet people, so it's great that all of these opportunities have come up at once for you!<br /><br />I have recently been telling a lot of people about my miscarriage. I don't know why, but I feel like talking about it more. It was such a major part of my life and still defines me today. So I've told the new friends I've made about it and I've talked some about the months afterward and how rough they were on me. I've discovered that sometimes if you tell someone you don't know about things like miscarriage and IF, it turns out that THEY have also experienced it. If we're always afraid to talk about it with people, they may feel the same...and then nobody would find out that they have that in common. It can be a comfort to find someone who understands, but you have to take a risk and talk about it to find that.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02912329811754448989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-26860510043459385942010-03-17T14:31:08.734-04:002010-03-17T14:31:08.734-04:00It sounds like you've been networking like cra...It sounds like you've been networking like crazy. That's awesome. ;-D I found with my infertility, the longer I experienced it, the more open I was with people. by the end, I would just come right out with it, and not feel any shame at all. I felt like opening up to people (even somewhat strangers) was very healing for me.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912857890584533572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-75727407817083996322010-03-17T00:50:01.534-04:002010-03-17T00:50:01.534-04:00Funny you should have a post like this. We just m...Funny you should have a post like this. We just moved to a small town nearly a year ago and I only really know a couple fo the neighbours and that's it. I too have been wanting to get out and meet more.LiL Moo & Meehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043592475857139997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-65169097079229247892010-03-16T16:50:37.138-04:002010-03-16T16:50:37.138-04:00That is awesome that your getting to make new frie...That is awesome that your getting to make new friends. I need to do that more. Usually when networking or meeting new people I never bring up my IF.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-83946094995991245302010-03-16T12:56:57.496-04:002010-03-16T12:56:57.496-04:00Even though I don't bring up private matters o...Even though I don't bring up private matters on my own to people I don't really know, if I'm asked directly, I find myself just answering just as directly, even if I didn't really want to! But I just started working in a preschool in the fall and every single co-worker has individually, bluntly asked me, do you have kids (that's an ok question), when are you going to have kids (ugh, I try to be evasive), and, what, don't you WANT kids? Nope, I can't stand kids - that's why I'm loving on them at work all day long! But these questions have led to me being more frank than I wanted to be about our TTC situation. I need to stick to my guns about being evasive, because I just don't want my co-workers to know this about me, not already!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03591339235702580287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-52196014947669955702010-03-16T12:14:05.999-04:002010-03-16T12:14:05.999-04:00So thankful the Lord is answering your prayers for...So thankful the Lord is answering your prayers for some new potential friendships! So awesome. Hopefully if you decide to join a church that will be a whole other network of people to become like family with. :)<br /><br />I'm pretty open about our IF with people and will mention it to acquantances if it comes up in some way. This has only backfired once with a very insensitive comment, but it was really my one and only so I'm ok taking the risk.Hillaryhttp://makingmemom.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-38753221484018728052010-03-16T11:24:19.460-04:002010-03-16T11:24:19.460-04:00Haha! You KNOW I’m not a sharer, but there was De...Haha! You KNOW I’m not a sharer, but there was Deb the hairdresser so I guess anything goes.<br /><br />I tend to avoid serious topics at things like parties, networking events, etc. (places where there is more mingling versus one-on-one contact). That’s just my style to keep things light. This situation presented itself and it would seem natural to open up given what she was asking....https://www.blogger.com/profile/09490440266637782466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-70415173684189545392010-03-16T11:15:51.982-04:002010-03-16T11:15:51.982-04:00I also find it easier to open up to stranger about...I also find it easier to open up to stranger about our IF struggles than people we know. I am pretty private IRL, but if it comes up I have found myself talking about more.<br /><br />eJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06304604705109409567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-91169618027615773162010-03-16T11:09:48.044-04:002010-03-16T11:09:48.044-04:00It is so hard to make friends! I'm glad you&#...It is so hard to make friends! I'm glad you're finding a few new opportunities to make those connections, though :). <br /><br />I tend to be open about my infertility to strangers or friends if the topic comes up and they actually seem interested. I don't need to bring up how long we've been trying only to have the other person brush it off though, so I guess I can be wary of just sharing with anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-26361103544038646532010-03-16T10:13:18.756-04:002010-03-16T10:13:18.756-04:00I find it relatively easy to everyone about IF, bu...I find it relatively easy to everyone about IF, but more so with strangers than with people I know. I'm glad you are meeting some new people and connecting with them!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-6112253236358346052010-03-16T10:12:36.127-04:002010-03-16T10:12:36.127-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-40195084518012672422010-03-16T09:43:14.313-04:002010-03-16T09:43:14.313-04:00I'm so glad you're finding so many new peo...I'm so glad you're finding so many new people to connect with where you live! I haven't had a lot of luck with making friends either, but I hope I get as lucky as you soon.<br /><br />And I agree with Hope, sometimes it's easier to talk with strangers about IF. Sometimes I like sliding it in there to raise awareness about it.ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4265503242081752766.post-85662682197562845192010-03-16T08:24:36.976-04:002010-03-16T08:24:36.976-04:00Actually, I find it easier to discuss with strange...Actually, I find it easier to discuss with strangers than people I know. Not that I ever bring it up, but on very rare occasions, it comes up. <br /><br />My husband and I have been lamenting that we haven't many friends, and of those we have, not many are our age. Still, I appreciate the few friends we have.Praying for Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14876247645386693790noreply@blogger.com