Yesterday I randomly checked (not something I do daily) one of my college friend's (Friend #5) blogs, and of course, she posted a positive pregnancy test recently! AND I also just found out yesterday from Friend #7 that Friend #5 told EVERYONE ELSE EXCEPT ME three weeks ago about her pregnancy! I cried BUCKETS yesterday afternoon. Buckets and buckets and buckets. I specifically sent out an email weeks ago to everyone telling them that I wanted to be included, even on stuff about kids!! I am so hurt I can't even put it into words. Let's review, out of us eight college friends, or maybe I should say "friends" (with the exception of #2 and #7, who have been very supportive):
Friend #1: Husband, one son, baby on the way (effortless kid count: 2)
Friend #2: Husband, one daughter, baby on the way (effortless kid count: 4)
Friend #3: Husband, one daughter, one son (effortless kid count: 6)
Friend #4: Husband, one daughter (effortless kid count: 7)
Friend #5: Husband, Apparently now expecting! (effortless kid count: 8)
Friend #6: Husband, not trying at all
Friend #7: Soon to be engaged
ME: Husband, two dogs, buckets of tears, empty arms, lonely house, boring Christmas card, three echo'ing bedrooms, unfulfilled life, lack of anything in common anymore
God, why don't You just beat me in the head with a 2x4! I think it would hurt less!!
I’m so sorry. I seriously cannot believe that after you emailed and said you wanted to be included.
ReplyDeleteWe’ve been the only childless couple among our friends for a while now. It hurts so much for it to be difficult/impossible for us and easy peasy for others.
((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteI had a similar thing happen to me last week. My "good" friend didn't even call me when she had her baby...I didn't find out till I called her house and she was at home with her new baby!! I was so hurt!
Wow, she just completely ignored that you asked to be included. That is horrible. It's one thing if our friends just don't know how to act or what is the right thing to do, but when you've TOLD them straight out there's no excuse.
ReplyDeleteI'd be crying buckets, too :(.
Wish I was closer - I'd have you over for some tea and chocolate. Or heck, I have a great bottle of wine here we could crack open :).
Wow, that sucks you had specifically asked to be included and still weren't. :( That has happened to me twice in the last month (found out they were both 20+ weeks along). It hurts, no way around it. :(
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry Mrs. A. The hurt is so real. (((hugs)))
ReplyDelete**hugs** I'm so sorry. And after you'd just said to include you too. That's so thoughtless and insensitive. I would totally be crying all day too. I wish we all lived closer together, so we could band together and share chocolate and emotional support. Isn't there a way to send chocolate via email?
ReplyDeleteso sorry it worked out like this:( i wish people would be more sensitive! we are also the only ones of our friends to struggle getting pregnant. everyone else seems to be right on the "get pregnant, have baby, repeat" bandwagon, and it get old...and hurtful. i commend you for sending out that e-mail (even though it was ignored by one), i think it's great to let the fertile myrtles know that we too have feelings.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry...I know it has to be hard for our friends and family. I know they mean well and try to do what they think is best (most of the time) but sometimes they just don't do and say the right things. Infertility is just hard. Period.
ReplyDeleteI can't fathom what must be going through their heads to exclude you after you'd asked to be included. And I guess the other six didn't think to forward you the email and say, "Oops, looks like she forgot to put you on the 'to:' list - I'm sure it was an accident." Maybe "friend" is right...
ReplyDeleteWhat the heck was she thinking??? I'm so sorry. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry A. That is not fair and not nice at all after you were so open and honest with them about including you. I wish we lived closer too, I'd take you out for a girls day.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry, I totally understand. I have a hard time with feeling like I have anything in commen with my friends that are moms as well. God knows your pain and I believe He has something better in store for you and your hubby than what your friends have!! Praying for you!
ReplyDeleteOh I am so very sorry! I don't understand why people do the things they do. It's just wrong. We are the only childless couple too. I was so hoping we would be sending out a Christmas card with a picture this year. But, I'm doing the boring cards too. Ugh!
ReplyDeleteUgh, I know exactly how you feel. It is so hard to deal with a friends pregnancies. But why wouldn't she tell you! You were bound to find out eventually!
ReplyDelete*hugs* I am sorry ;(
ReplyDeleteI am SO sorry. I have so many friends who I fear getting pregnant that I live in fear, lol. It hurts.
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