I havent heard anything from my friend. My heart is aching for her. In all our Christmas cards this year, i included our family picture, and although it took me a while to decide, i put one in her card, too. I never wanted to be left out and neither did she.. last time we talked.
I sent her an email "warning" about the picture, and i said if she received it on a hard day, she didnt have to open it.
As i was thinking more about her, what if she is jusy really busy at work? Is it selfish of me to assume her silence is related to me having M, while her arms are empty? I just wish id hear from her so i could stop wondering...
Oh that's so hard. I feel so sad for her. I don't think you're assuming too much. Let's face it, we've all been there. But at least she knows you are thinking about her... as in trying to be supportive and sensitive... and that's about the best you can do. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteIf I were busy, I would make extra-sure to reply to any serious emails, so those people didn't think I was avoiding responding. I would put off the response if I weren't sure how to respond. But that doesn't mean she's upset with you...I've found that, though I consider myself never at a loss for words, I'm so stunned when someone asks something human, like, "How has this experience been for you?" or "What can I do to be a good friend to you?" (don't worry, these conversations are extremely rare), that I have absolutely no idea how to respond. I flounder...I say seventy irrelevant things...I change the subject. I have no answer. I bet she doesn't, either. Offended and angry is easy; cared-for is difficult, perhaps because so rare.
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