I went to the card store to find a little gem for Mr. A for our anniversary on Thursday.
I was surprised at how many beautiful, thoughtful cards mention "our family" - but now that I think of it, it is hypothetically not surprising...
I was mostly surprised that, though I champion the idea that we are indeed a family of two, I didn't feel it was quite appropriate to buy one of the "our family" cards.
I felt somehow that it only serve as an awkward reminder that, while we consider ourselves a family, most of society looks for the kids when "our family" is mentioned. I was a little bummed because some of the family cards were the best written otherwise- not too much verbage, but just enough- and yes, the technically apply, i.e. "you have made our home is such a wonderful place for our family to come to relax after our day's chaos", but on our anniversary, I want my card and sentiments to focus on US NOW and not even remotely point out what we are missing. (We are not missing anything according to God's timeline of course- we feel that we're right where He wants us!)
I think I will write in some of the lines from the "our family" cards when I sign the one I got. I ended up choosing a funny (but very sweet) one- guys don't read mushy cards anyway, do they?
3 comments:
This is the first of your posts I've read, but I have to comment. I relate very much to what you wrote. Before kids (two, both adopted) I referred to hubby and myself as a family, but I always felt like a couple, not a family. I didn't even fool myself :( I wish you grace and strength during your "forty years".
I know just what you mean. I know family means the married couple and children IF ANY, but still...
I think he's more likely to read the mushy stuff if it's in your writing :). And that reminds me - I need to look for something for the DH for our anniversary in August!
So true. We are a family...but "couple" seems to be more applicable.
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